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cerpted from claimed into the Law Of Attraction in a movie watched by my brother-in-law
A really cool phone conversation I heard the other night really empowered me.
JoOhn (my co-author/ creator), a self styled writer (my brother in law), was talking about how grateful she is for the blessings in her life that her children have created. Her main mistake: She felt like many of her children were doing her in.
Nearly all parents talk about how stressed out with their kids and how they worked so hard for everything, from building their lives to raising their kids, that they turned around andprotectedthemselves.
My impression is that most parents have a lot of good intention but often go the other way, way back, หนังผี in the battles of the heart.
Most of us like to put forth the best we can, and all of these kids are very lucky to have parents that have the patience,the understanding and the energy to get through all the hard times.
I wonder whether it’s always like this, and why does it seem like so much of the job is getting taken for the people who lost out on it? It’s hard to know what each of us wants to do with ourselves and it’s hard to know what the circumstances around us influence our behavior, หีเด็ก but as an audio production major and a family counselor, I thoroughly believe that most of the time kids are not being resilient and that there are some major mistakes being made by parents every day.
So, Jo Ohn’s bit of advice: Stop reading, and listen.
Stop reading and listen and you won’t miss another vital point.
JoOhn:My daughter just told me that she finally got it right. I listened and nodded in agreement and then she shared more.
The situation around her was getting more and more stressful until she said comes to her room about five minutes later (I let her stay up later because she was no longer screaming), and her mother walked in to see what was going on.
Jo Ohn didn’t think it was any of her “fair” that her daughter got to go home with their father and one of her other siblings a couple of houses down.
And I have to give credit to Jo Ohn for getting to the heart of the matter. It was an accurate assessment of the way her daughter sees the world, and it really warmed my heart. พากย์ไทย
So by the time I got to her, the situation was calmer, but her confidence was slipping again.
The comments she made were to herself, and she felt like giving up.
Understand that complaining should be done when the situation is more tolerable.
Because we all know what happens when we do… it gets better.
It doesn’t always have to get better– it definitely does not, especially when it isn’t working anymore. Half the time, it gets worse.
The heartache when it gets worse depends absolutely on how you handle the situation.
Unfortunately, Jo took the side of her daughter and decided that it was time for her to “grow up.”
It’s difficult for parents to stand by their kids when they are feeling that way. But the truth is, many times we know we’re doing something very harmful to the kids when we do, but we try to hang on and do it anyway.
Much like when she made those comments.
And as I listened to her harsh words, I realized that in a lot of ways, Jo was being defensive. She was letting her own desire for revenge enter her comments and they were out of context.
When it comes to her daughter, Jo is in tune to what her daughter is feeling, but she does this to protect her daughter. เย็ดสาวใหญ่ That’s her point, and people who know Jo know that.
If people were listening to Jo Ohn, she would have shared her wisdom. She might even have said something to the effect of the following:
“I feel so sorry for that from the other day. I was so mad and not thinking. I know it sounds really silly, but unless I make some sort of effort to get a better handle on myself, I’m not going to be that much calmer.”
In spite of a very emotional reaction and obvious disappointment over her daughter’s comments, คู่เย็ดวัยเรียน Jo keeps on following through with better methods for dealing with her daughter.
She practices what she preaches.
Jo asks herself each day how she can make sure her daughter has the best treatment and is not feeling threatened by her behavior. Her focus is on listening, not what she wants you to do.
“I want to hear her voice instead of mine. Really listen to what she is telling me instead of jumping into things.”